Stewardship of Play
It has been a long slow learning curve for me—17 years of teaching young children—before I began to understand enough to teach a course for others. I was familiar with the normal slew of ECE textbooks, I was leading a preschool, and I was teaching advanced students, but I never thought I understood something as basic as preschool program planning, the first course for incoming students.
Like all the other courses I taught, I wanted to ensure that this new one was constructivist, that is, we—myself and the participants in the class—would build our understanding. Working with young children is less about something to read or know: what matters is how one acts with children. We are looking for truth and beauty in being.
I have never used a general text, because I never learned much from any I ever read. I never liked listening to lectures either, which is how I was treated in my education. That was out, too. I rather liked finding engaging, rather unorthodox things that provoked lively discussions. I especially liked the brazen joy of Bev Bos, whom I loved. I assigned one of her books to give everyone a healthy aesthetic and spent two months designing ways for students to assume the responsibility for developing, in concert with their classmates, how our understandings about schools for young children grow within us.
Designing a College Course
Every course I have taught I designed from scratch. Here is one paragraph about how I learned to do it. First, I defined the ultimate goals—what people are able to do in their futures down the road somewhere in their lives. Then for each I chose the visible performances that could happen this term that would indicate people have the capabilities to work towards those goals. The performances became the requirements, and the set of them can be sequenced by Bloom’s Taxonomy from low to high—that took care of the grades. To figure out the course sessions, I listed out the major concepts, the deep ideas that the course endeavors to convey, and placed them in somewhat of a logical order. These sequenced the topics over the term. The most basic concept becomes the focus for the first class. Activities in that first session must build upon everyone’s life experience.
On this new course, Program Planning, it became apparent that the first topic for the first session had to be the concept of play.
Beginning With Play
Everything builds from play. If we do not have a common understanding of what play is, we can’t work together to build it, and we can’t communicate to parents why preschool is not preparation for anything. The general common discourses we hear and read don’t seem to help people create optimal opportunities for play.
Children learn through play.
Work is different than play.
I want my child to learn not just play.
I don’t see any learning going on here. They’re just playing.
We have lots and lots of writing and talk about play with little assurance we are truly communicating.
For most people, the concept of play, the basic fundamental, seems easy to understand, but that may be a mistaken assumption. Play is an abstract concept, and it’s important to recognize that concepts can’t be given to others, especially abstract ones that you can’t see or touch. Concepts are mental constructs; one builds them from experience. One learns any concept by having experiences that seem similar and attaching a word to the cluster of the mental representations of those experiences. Take dog, for example; it’s a concept. If you look up the word dog, you’ll find a reasonable definition one can operate from: “a highly variable domesticated canine.” If you look up the word play, you get a mess. My English dictionary fills a full page and a half of tiny print with variants on how that word is used.
The widely agreed upon concept of dog is an idea that does not actually exist in reality. You can hold a puppy, but you can’t hold the idea of a dog or point to it. Dog is simply a word we give to the encounters we have had in our lives with those canines we call dogs. Because everyone’s experiences are different, one person’s mind representations have to be different than another person’s mind representations. Imagine you are a child and an animal walks by on a leash, “That’s a dog, honey.” “Don’t pet that dog.” “I know it looks like a big rat, but it is a dog, dear.” A concept is a suitcase full of thousands of experiences of “dog-ness.” We hold the handle, the word we use to carry it. In this case the handle of the suitcase says “Dog.”
I hope you’re bearing with me. We can’t transfer a concept to someone else for the concept is brain connections and the word is only the handle we can talk about.
Play is a handle on another case, but the contents are bizarre. Our basic difficulty in early education is the lack of commonality of what we think is inside the case that has play for a handle.
We can declare we value play and want it for children, but if we are doing this with others, most likely we aren’t talking about the same thing. I just picked up a curriculum book from my shelf here and looked through it. Nowhere does it even hint at what I know to be the essential deep and durable understandings about the stewardship of play and the guidance it gives us about what we educators have to do to use it as a guide for a school. Few child care spaces are creating optimized settings for play to grow, which, as I shall show you, falls into coordinated action when everyone has constructed the fundamental idea.
I would like to take you through the experience of creating the concept of play, so acts of stewardship have a proper foundation to what you do for young children and what you say to parents who look for the best possible experiences for their children.
Play: The Fundamental Idea
We have, in play, the foundation of human synergy and creativity. We know it from the inside when we are in it. Experiencing play is simultaneously fun and spiritual. Facilitating the existence of play in others is something entirely different. For someone on the outside, it is difficult to see and, unless we share a common concept to start with, difficult to comprehend how to help it grow.
Over the years of exploring the teaching of this subject I have discovered that just as children construct their play from their here-and-now, influenced by the social dynamics of their playmates, learning teachers learn best by constructing their understanding of play themselves. Once a construction of play is in place, we can discover the touch points of giving it means and opportunity.
Co-construction of the Concept of Play
The first day of the Program Planning class I invited participants to begin an investigation of the concept of play by playing. I offered them tubs of my large set of Cleversticks (any open-ended material can work, but this is the best one I have found for adults) and invited them to play for about 12 minutes. That was it. Simply play. Go.
As they played, I video taped as many people as I could right at the very beginning — the first two minutes of play. Some grabbed a bunch out of the basket, some grabbed two and stuck them together, some watched, etc. About 3 minutes later I again taped the same people. At about 8 minutes in I taped again, but this time focused on the social dynamics in various groups. When the timer rang, they cleaned up, and I prepared my video for playback.
I invited them to write for a few minutes what happened in their play. What they did first, next, next, etc., which they then shared in small groups. After sharing I called everyone together, I led a discussion to compile on a whiteboard what we could describe about play. As we progressed through the general course of events, I played the segments of video recordings from the beginning to help them recall the beginning and to see what others had done at that time. After we got the beginning of play described, I showed them the middle. After that was up I showed them the last section which was full of animated, cooperative work, and chatting.
I present now a compilation of what generally resulted from those discussions, using the documents I have kept from an estimated 500 people.
Construction of Play
A. The general course of events:
- Action. Germination. First one gets into it. You pick up the materials. Observe. Grab a pile of pieces. Click pieces together until some idea forms. (After some discussion it becomes apparent that we had to make a distinction when play actually starts. Some people said that when they are thinking and watching they are playing. Others disagreed. Because we were working on a definition of play that we could apply to watching others, we agreed that play doesn’t start until an action starts. Thinking is not a part of play that is observable to others.)
- Intention. Seedling. Then a plan, a thought, or intention emerges that focuses action: a decision to make something happen. Could be collecting the blue ones or attaching as many sticks as one can to a ring, make a pair of eyeglasses, necklace, or something large, etc.
- Refinement. True leaves. Gradually a new phase emerges. In implementing an intention we run into problems. The reality of the materials at hand creates a series of difficulties — like how to make it not fall over, or how to get it to actually look like a horse, etc. What results in early tries doesn’t match the early vision. One can creatively problem-solve to make it better, adapt the intention to the constraints, or change the idea. If the problems are solved and conditions are right, the construction gradually involves more people and becomes embellished, elaborated upon, and refined.
Always people want to share their observations about what happens with their mates and talk about their own feelings as time progressed. As those comments arose, I placed them to the side of the whiteboard creating list B and list C.
B. Positive Social Forces
- Conversations start up in a new way.
- People comment on what others are doing.
- People laugh more.
- We get to know others because people are doing something together that is more naturally spontaneous.
- We come out of our shells.
- It’s fun and goofy at times.
- This relaxed conviviality spreads to others.
- It gets loud.
- We are watching what others do.
- We copy interesting ideas.
- Seeing what others are doing is fun.
- Having others around helps generate new ideas.
- It’s nice to hear positive comments about one’s own work.
- Their energy extends the play longer and makes it more interesting to continue.
This positive energy feeds that third Refinement phase of play.
C. The Dark Side
I compare my own work with that of others.
I tend to judge what others do as better than what I do.
I really can’t do this very well.
I’m jealous. “I wish I could do that.”
I feel I am being judged.
Now everybody can see my lack of cleverness. I want to hide.
- Negative judgments like these easily come to mind along with a heightening sensitivity to anything negative. “I am really bad at…. “ “I don’t want to…” “This is not for me.” “Others don’t seem to like my ideas.”
- Playing requires us to exist at the edge of our competence. We are doing unpredictable things on impulse. We are more vulnerable. We may tend to hold back a bit to lessen our exposure.
- We can feel pressure to do well when people are watching us take risks. We want to look good.
- We can be negatively judged. Putdowns hurt; so does having others not respond to us, which can quickly lead to passivity or even withdrawal.
- Materials are hoarded, grabbed, and coveted. Certain resources become important to obtain in order to carry out one’s intention.
- Destruction of one’s work by another person is the ultimate horror.
- We need time to reach a satisfying result. I don’t like being stopped early, before I’m finished, when I’m really getting into it.
- Play comes alive through the positive social forces. Synergy fuels the fire and gives play the energy that sustains action through difficulties.
- Play is fragile. Any number of things can dump water on it, and the heat diminishes.
- Play can fall apart at any time, during phase two or even right at phase one, and never reach phase three. Seedlings are vulnerable to disturbance and can have a high mortality rate.
- Play consists of being spontaneous, present, and doing new things. Repeating old ways, doing what I did before, isn’t play: it lacks joy.
- Play may be delicate at first, but under the right conditions it resonates with a strong, determined dynamism, synergy, and creativity, like true leaves bringing energy for growth. Play may be the best that humans can be.
Our construction of play has three components: (A) general course of events, (B) the positive social forces, and (C) the dark side. At this point in the process this remains an adult-constructed view; it was built from several minutes of play with other adults in a college classroom. This could be, of course, a limited perspective, an inside-the-player view, that may not apply when one was on the outside of the play observing children.
That is a step, an essential step, on the way to understanding the Stewardship of Play, as this page is titled. Stewardship necessitates an outside-the-player view. Life happens; children do their childhood; sometimes they are engaged in play and sometimes not. Our construction of the concept of play has utility only if we can use it as we watch children and reflect on our ability to care for it.
Can our construction of play be used to define the existence of play when we are the observers and not the players?
A way to address the validity of these ideas is to see if it applies to children. We can watch a six-minute video recording. Two adults and four children are present. Three boys. One girl. The materials are long tube carpet roll cores, arge coffee cans, yellow tennis balls, and a low sawhorse.
(BTW This was in the North Seattle Laboratory Preschool where I did all my taping and investigation. The adult child ratio was abnormal because this was a class. One of the ideas we were investigating at this time was whether a choice board helped or not. The children could voluntarily move their own clothespin to the symbol of the area they were choosing to play in. We decided this declaration routine made no difference at all.)
I invite you to watch for yourself. The idea is to see if you can see (A) the general sequence, (B) the presence or absence of positive social forces, and (C) indicators of the presence of the dark side.
If you watch this with other people, do these three parts apply here?
The same 500 or so people I mentioned above agreed at this point that their proposed, socially-constructed description of the concept of play-as-viewed-from-the-outside indeed has the sequence, becomes energized by the social world, and is subject to dark forces, such as the girl leaving unengaged, having possession of tennis balls. and walking through the center of other’s play. That agreement alters our shared reality. This group, the current group who has done this construction together, has a shared, socially-constructed agreement about the definition of play that has been validated, a bit, by seeing unfold and discussing it. Now we move it to the next level: we address the conditions in the environment that help or hinder the spark and sustainability of play.
Metaphor of the Gardener
Before proceeding it is worth considering agriculture as a metaphor. Most plants grow naturally in their environmental niche. Some plants are grown intentionally in a niche provided by human beings. In either case, the genetic makeup of the seed contains the information needed to flourish that the farmer, gardener, or nursery worker desires to foster in its full expression.
The gardener views the plant from the outside and knows what to provide at each stage of growth: germination, seedling, and true leaves. The gardener does not encourage the seed to germinate, grow roots, or sprout leaves. The gardener works on the outside by attending to the conditions for growth to optimize the chances that the inside genetics come into fruition. The gardener fosters that full expression by ensuring positive forces are optimized and toxins are absent.
Educators, like gardeners, are engaged in environmental management—stewardship—assuming the responsibilities for planning and resources to safeguard the needs of others in an ethic of care. What we have done to define the concept has its purpose in shepherding and safeguarding the conditions that foster play.
Conditions that Foster Play
The children are the players; we are trusted to conduct, supervise, and responsibly manage opportunities for children’s play, so it more than sustains, it flourishes. Stewards of Play have two jobs: (1) to select or provide a healthy environment, the “before the children come” side; (2) to keep things sympathetic and the dark forces at bay, the “during the children’s engagement” side.
What are the environmental components that enhance the emergence and continuation of play?
I can recall my most treasured play experiences as a child, and I have student’s do this, too. The provocation I use is reading them Roxaboxen, a book that Bev Bos introduced me to, and inviting them share their best childhood play memories. Then we list what those settings provided that enabled that play to be so memorable. Consistently and uniformly, each class creates the same set.
- long stretches of time,
- friends with different abilities and experiences,
- no cleanup at the end, instead, the play space continues day after day, with various additions,
- found materials, usually natural, few if any toys,
- no adults.
With that start, the participants began a lengthy discussion of those environmental components. One comment often occurred: participants need emotional safety, the idea that people need to feel comfortable to play or empowered to play. It’s an important problem, but it can’t be included on the list, because the players aren’t the subject of this discussion. We are erasing them as in the image above. We are trying to describe the before/during environment in which play flourishes.
We’ve erased the players, so where does emotional safety come from?
Below is a composite of lists created over many years. As you can see, at this point the lingering question of emotional safety has not been adequately addressed. I kept Emotional Safety on the board as we explored further. The physical safety guides, the physical conditions, became clear. Oddly, time was often the last to be added.
Physical Safety: the environment is free from dangers
Space: sufficient space is available that is open and adaptable so it can be altered as play develops
Time: long enough periods of time each day, as well as opportunities to extend work across days
Materials: in quantity, offering hands on experience, made accessible and visible, in variety, open-ended to be used in many ways, and aesthetic
Physical Well-being: spaces are warm and lighted and furniture is of a comfortable size for children, who are well fed and rested
Leadership and Facilitation
- Offer freedom.
- Observe without impinging on what is happening, being present with little, if any, involvement, documenting by writing down what children say, taking photographs and video of significant developments to reshow at a group meeting time.
- Be pleasant and present; model positive energy; recognize events of cooperation and perseverance.
- Recognize initiative: narrate inventiveness, make intrinsically phrased remarks, such as tricky or clever.
Emotional Safety: What is Missing?
To get the emotional safety more fully addressed, we shifted to a discussion of printed text. I provided a handout of Quotations From Bev Bos, Before the Basics, the textbook I used because it had so many provocative ideas.
Here is a page of quotations from Bev Bos for you to discuss in your groups. One person reads the quote aloud, and then the group talks about what comes to mind. When ready, you can do the same with the next.
1. This year we had much more rain than usual. Everyone, frankly, was very tired of it. In the middle of sharing one day, I said, “Come on! Let’s go out and enjoy the weather!” It was pouring. We ran on the bicycle trail, lifting our heads up and sticking out our tongues to catch the rain. We laughed; we touched each other’s wet arms and faces. We talked about the dark clouds, and then we ran back in. The joy, the sense of play and friendship as we talked was overwhelming. Months later, children would say, “Do you remember when we ran in the rain?” When we talk of the best things we have done, very often a child will say, “The best day was when we ran in the rain.”
2. Children were not born to sit still. When I visit schools and I don’t hear children asking questions, arguing, even interrupting, I suspect that there’s little learning going on.
3. Children were not born to stand in line. Since most adults I know don’t like to stand in line, we must understand if we think about it how awful standing in line is for young children—all that energy and curiosity simply brought to a halt. Of course, its not. Standing in line is simply an invitation to pinching, poking, shoving, stepping on toes. In the many years I’ve taught young children, I’ve rarely found it necessary to line them up for anything. We can sing songs, tell stories, have conversations in during the time wasted in lining up.
4. As adults, we must first remember that we are in charge of the settings in which are children develop and discover; we create and control those settings for better or for worse. Sometimes, unfortunately, it is for the worse. Why that should be is very mysterious. Our very desire to do the best for our children makes us nervous. Although we have all been children, we forget what being a child was like. We begin to see children as objects, forgetting that we need to communicate with them or mistrusting our ability to communicate with them. In so doing, we lead them into mistrusting their own sense of what is good for them.
5. There is yet another way in which our nervous concern for our children leads to less-than-effective learning. Learning is a human activity. It needs to be filled with laughter, sometimes with tears, with infinite, painstaking effort; but it must never be mechanical. Child-rearing and education are a serious business. That doesn’t mean the have to be grim businesses. Rather the contrary. We need to develop a sense of joy in working with young children exactly in proportion to our sense of how important their learning is to us.
I hoped time for an open-ended conversation would be relaxing and playful. Usually people welcomed the freedom to talk. We get talk with our friends!
I watched for about ten minutes so they had enough time to really get going. Then I walked up to each group in turn with a stern expression and my arms crossed. I stood there waiting for someone to be talking animatedly, and I interrupted them mid-sentence. I asked rather formally, “Are you on #5 yet?” Without waiting for an answer, I walked off. Around the classroom I went doing the same to each group. Then I stopped everyone.
“I just did something to each of your groups. Would you talk now about what went through your mind when I said, ‘Are you on #5 yet?'” I heard outrage from some, a wave of guilt from being a bad student in others, and almost unanimous discomfort.
Why did that have such an effect? All I did was ask a teacherly question.
The answer gradually emerged as we talked about that experience. I changed expectations about what they thought they were doing. They were set up, right from the first activity of this course, with an expectation that when I created opportunities for small groups to talk together, they had freedom to do and say whatever they wanted. In a sense, they were playing as we defined it above. They could germinate, become seedlings, and grow their leaves of understanding. I had always offered freedom to talk about whatever they wanted, listened without interfering, was pleasant, and tried to convey that I valued their initiative. As a result, positive social forces were at work talking about these ideas and how true they were in their experience. Energy was going gangbusters!
Abruptly I changed the rules. They were suddenly not free to follow their flow. They were forced, by my power and privilege, to change their behavior to conform to different expectations. It was like turning off the lights: The Dark Side arose into the room.
Do you have any idea how often this happens to children when they start to be playful? Or why children play better when no adults are around? Adults, in an attempt to be responsible, interject a bit of guidance or share an imaginary worst-case-scenario—Be careful. It’s not OK to put sand on the slide. Watch out Diana is coming down.—immediately dousing the fires of spontaneity and removing their freedom to play.
This led to Leadership and Facilitation point #5:
5. Maintain clear, consistent boundaries and expectations, established beforehand. If new problems arise that modify those expectations, honor the children’s input and negotiate new boundaries and agreements in an immediate community meeting or later at a scheduled group time.
Emotional Safety: Is there more?
There was still one more missing piece of emotional safety to address. I asked participants to look into their life experiences. I asked them to list one or two things they do really well, difficult things that took time to learn.
What are some of the abilities you have that others recognize and value?
Once those were jotted down, I asked them to pick one and write for a minute. What was it like in the very beginning when you were trying to learn to do that? They shared their experience with each other—a required opportunity brag.
After several minutes, I called the groups together and asked them to define self-confidence. The discussion varied each time, of course, but usually we arrived at the same place. We had on the board something like the dictionary definition of self-confidence: (1.) Our self-assurance in trusting our abilities, capacities and judgements; (2.) The belief that we can meet the demands of an upcoming task.
Then it was time for the final prompt.
Where does self-confidence come from?
How does one become self-confident in some endeavor or in some challenging situation?
This discussion lead eventually to the conclusion—based upon people’s own experience in areas where they had built their own self confidence—that self-confidence comes from making mistakes and correcting them. The more mistakes you make and correct, the more confident you become. I am confident in my ability to bake bread, because I have made every possible mistake, including forgetting about it rising in the oven and later finding a swollen mess of spongy dough completely filling it. That never happened again, of course.
This led to Leadership and Facilitation point #6:
6. Trust children to fix their own mistakes.
Either alone or with the help of others, children can find new solutions, rectify their problems, or repair a wrong. When they get to create the solution by themselves, without adult interference, they develop confidence in themselves, confidence in others, and confidence in the power of belonging to a community.
With #5 and #6 we address emotional safety, not in terms of how children feel (not predictable) but in terms of two guides for own intentions as leaders. We can ensure in our play environments we are purposeful in two ways: establish consistent expectations and value the self-correction of mistakes.
Guides for the Stewardship of Play
We constructed then a shared concept of play and the two-part conditions that foster play. We were now agreed upon guides for a Stewardship of Play for all the participants in this experience—a socially-constructed shared reality—this group could use to understand program planning for young children. The guides had a firm reality to everyone who participated in the process.
Construction of Play + Conditions That Foster Play = Stewardship of Play
PDF file to reprint, use, adapt (with attribution) Stewardship of Play
A week later we discussed people’s experiences with children after building this understanding. First they had about fifteen minutes to talk in small groups, and then we had a large group discussion. Participants consistently reported how they had changed. They became proactive in setting an environment that more smoothly allowed children to play. They made sure the materials they offered met the criteria they developed. They allowed more time, letting play periods go on longer. They found ways to safeguard important play items so they could continue from one day to the next. They hung back and watched how the children found their own solutions to difficulties. Their shared incidences where young children were immediately playing better as a result of their new understanding of play.
This is why I began with the discussion of abstract concepts above. Now the suitcase with the handle “PLAY” contained a common understanding. No blah-blah lecture could ever transfer this abstraction into their brain. Knowledge became understanding. When they applied that understanding in their next week with children—the general sequence, the social forces, and the physical and emotional guides—they became Stewards of Children’s Play.
They also agreed it was a pleasure to work with other teachers who had done this work, too. They acted in concert in the same ways with a new confidence and a tangible sense of joy.
To bev bos and all Stewards of Childhood