Enterprise Talk: a handrail to authenticity and integrity
- If you take on the challenge of Enterprise Talk, see if the switch to this way of talking works for you, and commit yourself to continual application, you can make a major change in your life.
- If you count each of the listed ways you talk, you can see your habits.
- If you want to change, I promise that Enterprise Talk will make you a better teacher and a better parent.
Sometimes we may bring habits that recall the words, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Possibly when we are angry, we can find ourselves saying things the way our parents did when they, too, were out of touch with themselves. Enterprise Talk is a handrail to grab in times of difficulty in order to match who we want to be with our actions and behave like the good person we aspire to be.
We have integrity when we act as we say we believe.
We are authentic when we are being in each moment true to the depth of our spirit.
Teaching and parenting operate inside a human relationship. The quality of that relationship depends upon one’s integrity and authenticity. Achieving those virtues challenges teachers and parents to act in the best interest of others and truly be who they are themselves as people right now, fully present. In each moment, good times and bad, it takes willingness to being changed by others and a willingness to trust one’s natural intelligence, natural wisdom, and natural warmth to guide the way. Gradually, as we try to walk our talk and be true to ourselves, we form the person we are in that relationship.
To teach well or parent well requires an awareness of self like a security camera constantly watching ourselves in action. Self-awareness enables us to anticipate what we are about to do, so we can take just a moment to consider what’s first on our mind, and, if necessary, invent a better thing to say. That awareness in the moment and the pause to think allows us to lay aside old ingrained habits and explore a more authentic way of being. These little moments of correction enable us to act less out of habit and more spontaneously fresh. Gradually, small check with alteration by small check with alteration, all of us can become more comfortable simply relaxing in the complexity and ambiguity of being with children — flowing freely and fearlessly — giving them the gift of being completely present for them with unconditional, positive regard.